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Kill ‘Em With Kindness

 

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I was 12 when I had my first boyfriend. His name was Chris Cressy. We “dated” for three weeks before he ghosted me just one week after my 13th birthday. For some reason, one that will remain a mystery forever, Chris decided to make the next year of my life miserable. I mean, he had already ripped out my heart and stomped on it, so why not take my already shaky teenage self esteem and drag that through the gutter too?

Chris HATED my guts. He put gum in my hair when I made the mistake of sitting in front of him on the school bus. He called me “pig face” everyday because of my stupid little upturned nose. We had “loathe” as a vocabulary word in 8th grade English, and he made it clear to the whole class who he loathed.

What had I done to deserve this treatment? Nothing.

So what did I do to defend myself or retaliate to Chris’s incessant bullying? Also, nothing.

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Even though my feelings were being constantly battered, I was nice to Chris. It was in December 2003 that he decided to cut it out and call off his verbal dogs. I was best friends with his sister and decided to give the entire family Christmas gifts, and when he saw that I gave him my own coveted NOFX tee shirt, he said something along the lines of “Sarah is just so nice. I think I’m going to be nice back.” It was a Christmas miracle!

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I know that compared to others’ experiences, my middle school situation was really NBD. Nevertheless, it had a profound effect on my life. I learned that kindness, genuine kindness, cannot be beat. I learned that patience truly is as virtuous as they say. I learned that taking the high road can be a real pain in the ass, but it is absolutely necessary.

After we got over that blip, Chris and I became friends, and remain friends to this day, almost 15 years later! He’s actually a great person, he was just an asshole teenager. (HI, CHRIS! I told you I was gonna use your full name!)

The inspiration to write this stemmed from a collaboration I have with a company called Little Words Project. I love looking down at my wrist and seeing the reminder to simply “be kind,” because I know from personal experience just how important that is. I suppose if you’re reading this post and are looking for something to take away from it all, hear me now: Kindness will always win.

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Be Kind Bracelet/ Little Words Project

 

Now this is stuck in my head: “Be kind to your web footed friends, for a duck may be somebody’s mother”

Look Good, Feel Good (Part 1)

Do you feel more confident when you make the time and effort to do your make-up, fix your hair, and dress up? I know I do, but getting there can be a major struggle. All I think about is how comfortable my yoga pants and oversized t-shirt is. And as long as I don’t run into anyone I know, I’m in the clear. Unfortunately, that never works out.

Anytime I decide to stay in my slums, I always without a doubt run into someone I wasn’t expecting. Not only that but anytime I don’t clean up, I don’t feel good. All I want to do is lay in bed and watch Netflix or just sleep. I’ve realized it’s not healthy for me so I’ve decided to put more effort into my everyday routine.

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Go Dodgers, am I right?

Looking Good, Christina

After applying a hefty amount of dry shampoo and scraping out the rest of my “Full Coverage” foundation to cover up my hormonal breakouts, I’m finally looking and feeling better. When I feel more confident in myself, I have more energy to get out of the house and be productive. Even though it sounds like more work, it’s really not—once you’re done, you get things done.

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Dry Shampoo: Monat The Champ. Lips: Lipsense- 1 coat Purple Reign, 2 Coats Party Pink, Matte Gloss
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I’ve been obsessed with my pink frameless mirrored sunnies!

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So take on the challenge. Put in the extra effort, and look GOOD! Don’t do it for anyone other than yourself. You Go Girl!

xoxo,
Christina

20 Things About Us

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In case you haven’t noticed the big change I made to my blog recently, I now have a co-author, my vivacious and bubbly cousin, Christina. It is now our blog. I will continue to write essays about whatever pointless/silly things I happen to be thinking about and regularly post about what I’m wearing and why, while Christina might actually teach you something (she’s a total natural at writing DIY posts).

When I read blogs, I tend to favor posts that help me get to know the person I’m reading about. I always crack up when I get to read posts with random facts about people (like this one that my friends wrote), so without further adieu, here are 20 random ass things about us that you didn’t even realize you need to know.

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SARAH-

  1. I like how skunks smell.
  2. If I could trade places with any fictional character, it’d be Rip Van Winkle because I love sleeping so much.
  3. I may act like a literary snob, but most of the things I know about literature were learned from the 90’s PBS show, Wishbone.
  4. I didn’t have cable TV or at-home Internet access growing up, which explains why I watched so much PBS and had to go to the library to keep up with my Myspace correspondents.
  5. I think that Samson from the Old Testament (you know, of Samson and Delilah) might be my spirit animal because I too feel powerless without my hair extensions.
  6. I wish I could carry a tune, but am frequently asked to stop every time I begin to sing.
  7. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, and we’ve still never openly farted in front of each other.
  8. Eight is my lucky number. No it’s not, I don’t have a lucky number I just couldn’t think of anything to write.
  9. If I could only listen to 5 bands for the rest of my life they’d be: Abba, ACDC, Styx, Queen, and idk Drake or something.
  10. I once ate a few bites of undercooked chicken because I didn’t want to hurt the chef’s feelings. I’ve been working on being less passive ever since.

 

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CHRISTINA-

  1. I’m 27 and I can still do the splits.
  2. If I could paint my house like a rainbow, I would, but my husband has some say in the matter.
  3. My hair is always changing color. I prefer fashion colors (pink, purple, silver) over natural ones.
  4. My right leg is one inch longer than my left.
  5. When I sneeze or hiccup, it sounds like a squeaky dog toy.
  6. I was in the hospital the week of my wedding for an emergency gall bladder removal surgery. I honestly thought I was going to get married in the hospital.
  7. I’m a direct descendant of Henry V (as is Sarah).
  8. I had both of my children unplanned.
  9. I play the viola.
  10. I can have an entire conversation using only movie quotes.

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We hope you have a grrrrreat weekend!

¡Viva Fiesta!

Fiesta originated 125 years ago when citizens of San Antonio wanted to celebrate the heroes of the Alamo with what they named The Battle of Flowers. It became a tradition and is now ingrained in San Antonio’s culture. And get this, it is the only parade in the country to be planned and directed completely by women! GO GIRLS! When I was a kid, I was in synchronized swimming and our team, The Cygnets (baby swans), got to participate in the parade and had our own float. Being super clumsy, I was never allowed to go on the float so I had to walk. We were told to just throw candy at kids whenever we walked by them, which could be a little dangerous. When you think about it, the parade is a ton of giant piñatas spewing candy all over the place. No baseball bats or blindfolds involved so all the hard work is done.

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Being born and raised in San Antonio, I have a deep respect and appreciation for my city. When Fiesta comes around each year, I am again reminded of the history and culture of this beautiful city. N.I.O.S.A which stands for Night In Old San Antonio is where the party is at. Every year Sarah’s Dad, my uncle, volunteers and usually always asks for help. He works at the “Ranch Steak” tent. Ranch Steaks are a thin slice of chuck on a tortilla. Can’t get much simpler than that!

If a Ranch Steak doesn’t peak your interest, you could also try the infamous Chicken on a stick, or Steer on a stick, Elote (corn on the cob), or anything fried you can think of. Being a volunteer, you get all the sweet perks. Early entry, private bathrooms, air conditioned lobby, and free food. Whenever I had the chance to help out with my cousins, we would always be the ones taking tickets and banging the cow bell saying “RANCH STEAKS! GET YOUR RANCH STEAKS!” Then when 10pm came around (closing time) all the hungry drunks rush to your booth to get their greasy fill. Things can get a little crazy but overall, it’s a grand time.

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The whole month of April has Fiesta-related events going on, but the main events are from April 20th – April 30th. If you plan on making a trip, I would suggest coming for N.I.O.S.A., you will experience everything “Fiesta” in a span of 4-5 hours from good food, drinks, music, and partying. If you plan on bringing kids, I would recommend the Fiesta Carnival or one of the many parades. All information about the events and details can be found here.
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If you’re ever planning to visit San Antonio, come in mid-April and party like a local!

xoxo,
Christina

Welcome To Me Too

Not a Meghan Trainor reference although I have heard we look alike…

Hey Y’ALL!  Yes, I said “y’all”. I’m Christina, Sarah’s cousin and bestie from San Antonio, TX (you may remember me from here)! I am proud and thrilled to let you know, I will be joining in on the “That’s What SHE Said” site as a co-author. Get ready to see a whole lot more of me. My name is Christina Ashton, formerly McIver- pronounced “Mac-Gyver”. Yes, LIKE THE TV SHOW.

I am a 27 Year old wife and mother. I met my husband almost 10 years ago and knew the moment we met, he would be MINE. I wouldn’t let anything stop me from marrying that fine piece. Fast forward 10 years and we have 2 beautiful children. Thomas, age 4. Charlotte, age 3. I’ve always viewed the world as a loud and vibrant place and I am always searching for boldness and beauty in everyday life. It wasn’t until about 3 months ago that I actually considered blogging. The more I thought about it, the more I knew I could do it. I want to show y’all what the world looks like through my eyes. My spirit animal is a Unicorn and I’m always spewing glitter and magic everywhere I go. Being unhappy won’t get you anywhere so do your best to feel the best! I’m ecstatic to start this new adventure. Be ready for the sparkles.

with all the joy and love,

Christina

Woman Of The Hour Vol 2

Have you ever met someone and thought to yourself that, come hell or high water, you will make that person your friend? Anne of Green Gables describes these people as “kindred spirits” more than just plain old “friends”. That’s how I felt when I met my next Woman Of The Hour, Jess.

Jess, or Jessica (but never Jessie), and I met when she started working where I worked a little over 2 years ago. She is a fellow native of Texas transplanted to PA, and when my boss was interviewing her, she called me over to chit chat. When our boss asked us if we knew each other because we were both from Texas, Jess and I rolled our eyes and shared the same thought bubble “Texas is kind of a big state, ya dummy”…. We’ve been friends ever since. We made a suicide pact and quit that job on the same day. We’ve cried together, laughed together, but mostly cried so hard from laughing together. I was so excited when she agreed to answer my “burning questions”, as I want to give the world a chance to get to know one of the coolest women I know.

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Describe your style in 1-5 words.

Is preppy edge a thing?

Who is your style icon?

Good question, I wouldn’t consider myself to be on the up and up when it comes to fashion, so I don’t really have someone I idolize, but I think Alexa Chung always kills it. If I could be similarly bold as her, I’d die fashionably happy.

What is your best feature? (Smile? Hair? Boobs? Idk)

All of my features are my best, just kidding… kind of. I would say my hair, which I think most of my friends would agree with. If you are asking based on the compliments I receive from strangers online dating, the common consensus is my smile. (Thanks for the braces Mom and Dad)

What song would you want to play when you walk into a room to make you feel like a bad ass?

Deceptacon- Le Tigre (I have so much love for songs with great clapping) OR Blister In The Sun – Violent Femmes

What beauty product can you not live without? 

This is a cruel question… if we are only talking about face, then a brow product of some sort (pencil or powder) and bronzer.

What was your first AOL screen name?

Nothing cool that’s for sure. I think it was jezzikahnickol or something of that sort.

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Are you currently binge watching anything, Netflix or otherwise? 

I just finished The Night of on HBO. I highly recommend lying in your home for a weekend, and binging the hell out of it.

What is your favorite Halloween costume you’ve ever had?

My favorite Halloween costume would have to be when I was a cool cat. Not to be confused with actually being a cat; that’s not my thing. (Buh-Bye Furries)

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If you could go anywhere in the world for a week, where would you go and why?

Ireland. I once had a roommate who was from Ireland; she was hilarious, wild, warm, and kind. She put the idea in my head. Also have you Googled Ireland? Do your eyeballs a favor, go Google! It is so green, gray, and mountainous. It looks like a complete dream.

What are your most and least favorite parts about online dating?

My least favorite would have to be people falsely representing their intentions. (If you only want to “hook up” just be honest, so I don’t have to waste my time.)

My favorite thing about online dating is that it is entertainment when you are bored. Kidding, it does make you examine what you want in a partner, what you think of yourself, it’s interesting to see how people sell themselves.  I appreciate the self-reflection. So basically I like that it makes me think about myself more than I already do.

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Most embarrassing dating moment? 

Oh, I’ve had so many. I think it comes with the territory. Once I was going on a second date with a guy that I had gone on 2 first dates with, just 1 year apart. Dating is real weird y’all. Anyway he had given me his number, and I texted him asking if he wanted to grab drinks at a bar nearby. We agree to meet up and he seemed excited. He texted an hour before to double check that we were still on. So I walk over to the bar, and he is standing outside. I apologized and asked if he had been waiting long (even though I was on time) and he looked so confused. I start the awkward beginning small talk asking how he had been. Then he said, “Fine I’m just waiting for my friend Jessica to meet me for drinks.” Then I had an AHA moment of “Oh he didn’t realize he was even going out with me, he thought I was a completely different person who texted him.” My heart sank. He apologized for his confusion, we did end up getting drinks, and he walked me home. We haven’t talked since. I cringe still thinking about that moment of realization. I’m interested to know what you (Sarah) think is my most embarrassing dating moment.

[one of my favorites of Jessica’s dating moments was when she went out with a Paul Giamati looking guy who was kind of the worst. He didn’t like Harry Potter and he wasn’t funny. She brought him over to our house to meet Joel and I and to prove to us how annoying he was after I kept telling her to give him a chance. He talked through all of Wet Hot American Summer, so Jess ditched him by using the classic fake frantic phone call and the old excuse “you have to drop me off at home, my best friend just found out she’s pregnant and doesn’t know what to do”. Months after she broke it off with him, we saw him at the karaoke bar we frequent and he did a very passionate rendition of You Oughta Know by Alanis Morissette, dedicated to Jess.]

What is your drink of choice? 

I’m a beer gal; I love an ice cold Murphy’s Irish Stout. I will drink a strong stout before cursing my mouth with an IPA. I’m not adult enough to confidently walk up to a bar and order cocktail. That is one of those random things that gives me great anxiety.

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Give me an example of your biggest fashion win and your biggest fashion mistake.

My biggest fashion mistake includes anything I bought at Hot Topic. Oh the horror. My biggest fashion win I would say is my bridesmaid dress for your wedding. The dress was simple, really simple. I think it is my biggest fashion win because I felt confident, sexy, and like my best self.

What are your favorite and least favorite current fashion trends? 

Oh whatever you call those baggy long shorts. Can we just not? I love a good stripe; it is a classic trend. A little birdy from Vogue says stripes are making a their way back around. Were they ever out though? I wouldn’t know.

Best advice you’ve ever been given and would like to pass on.

Stay Sexy and Don’t Get Murdered. 

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Bonus Question: What is your go-to karaoke song?

Say It Ain’t So by Weezer. If the audience is patient, the song really builds.

There you have it. A little insight to a very complicated girl. For more Jezzikahnikol, follow her on Instagram. Or see her frequently featured on my Snapchat stories.

#IHaveThisThingWith PINK

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Everyone has a thing with something, right? I think that my obsession with the girliest of all colors stems from the fact that I was such a tomboy growing up- I’m making up for lost time. When I was looking into hotels for New Orleans, I saw this one and booked it immediately. It could have been the site of a mass murder (it wasn’t) or run by a creepy cult (no), but it wouldn’t have mattered because IT’S PINK! I highly recommend staying at the New Orleans Guest House if you’re in Nawlins. It’s charming AF and you get free waffles in the morning. Our room opened up right to the courtyard, complete with pretty plants, flowers, and 2 cute cats running around.

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The pink passion runs deep. I even have an entire pinterest board dedicated to it. Cool story bro.

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Pink phone case Ban.do
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Pink wall in Pittsburgh, PA. If this gets painted over, I’ll die.
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Pink in Amsterdam at Kitsch Kitchen
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Clearly, I favored the pink walls in Burano over the orange/violet

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Pink in Toledo, OH

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My knowledge of the pops of pink out in the world might be the only thing that gets me through the dreary, gross winter. It’s 11 degrees outside.

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