Just The Two Of Us



Real Talk. It’s kind of crazy how soon after Joel and I got married that we started getting all the “when are you going to have a baby” questions (I’m pretty sure we got a few of them at our wedding reception via my grandma who told us to “get to work” on it, haha). Okay, I guess it’s not that crazy because we all know that “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage” and it’s not like we’re getting any younger…

I definitely had a strong case of baby fever last year. So much so that it was distracting me from my relationship with not only my husband, but with myself. I was obsessed with the idea of a miniature version of me and Joel, but when I actually stopped to think about how big of a deal it is to bring a human into the world and care for him/her, I felt overwhelmed. To make a really long story short, we’re not ready to add any tiny humans to our family just yet. AND THAT’S OKAY!

Dress/Tobi, Shoes/Public Desire (similar), Joel’s Shirt + Tie/J.Crew


My favorite thing that I’ve learned from my husband is to pump the brakes and to take the time to enjoy the life you’re living as you live it, because change is inevitable. As of right now, that means reveling in our time with just the two of us (plus our two dumb kitties, whom we love like children anyway). Right now, we’re seriously enjoying loving other people’s kids (so many friends with cute babies to hold all around us!). We find sheer delight in being Aunt Sarah and Uncle Joel to our sweet niece, and can’t wait for another little niece or nephew to arrive soon; but we’re definitely not scrambling to add a new cousin to the mix at this time.

I’m not sure if it was society or my own biological clock tick tick ticking away, but I’ve definitely felt pressure to procreate. As soon as I had the epiphany to relieve that pressure, to just let it go, I found myself the happiest I’ve ever been. Although being a mom is something I, personally, feel destined to be, I’m now in no rush whatsoever. So sorry, Grandma, it’s just the two of us!



2 thoughts on “Just The Two Of Us

  1. Take yalls time! Your brother and I are doing that for a verrryyyy long time before adoption! I honestly be in the same shoes and be a aunt! The relationship to grow with a husband is so important! Love ya!

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  2. This is one of the nice things about being gay, lmao. Adopting (especially as a same-sex couple) is such a long, *intentional* process that takes a lot of thought, work, and dedication. It’s basically impossible to rush into it. Which, someday when we’re ready, will be tortuous… but for now, we get to just focus on each other.

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