People say that the first year of marriage is the hardest. So far, it’s been more of an adjustment at times, but I wouldn’t call it difficult. Coming down from the high that we were on from our wedding (especially after planning every last detail for over a year and having so many friends and family come to our city) wasn’t the easiest thing, but we were excited and eager start our lives together as husband and wife. Even when we got back from our two week European honeymoon, it somehow feels like our honeymoon never ended.
It’s definitely not all rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes I forget that I’m legally bound to anther person and that I shouldn’t keep all of my feeling bottled up like I’m so accustomed to doing. Joel is so great about knowing when any tiny little thing is wrong with me and making me talk about it. Communication has always been key for us. It’s why we never really “fight”.
Today marks our first six months of marriage! Pretty cool that we’re halfway to our first year as The Blumers, huh? Since getting hitched, the question I get asked the most is when we plan to have kids. “Cool your damn jets” is what I want to say to my mom when she pressures me into making a baby before her next visit to Pittsburgh (November 2017). We did not get married for the sole purpose of reproducing, we got married because we want to be together and if we add a few more to our family, then that’s cool too, but it’s just us for now. We don’t actually plan on having children until we are both in our thirties. Joel’s about to be 29, but I’m still 26 so we have some time to ourselves. The thing is, our marriage itself is kind of our baby. Think about it: it needs tender, loving care and we give annoying month to month updates on Facebook. I should copyright that metaphor.
Two big things we have added to our lives since getting married: a budget and kittens! I think that a lot of newlyweds and couples in general, argue about money. With a weekly budget and a nerdy husband who loves Excel spreadsheets, we can happily stick with it! We’re only a little obsessed with our kittens, Sweet Dee and Peter Nincompoop.
It didn’t take us long to settle into our roles as being a boring old married couple. We’re total homebodies who spent the entire weekend binge watching Workaholics and old seasons of Project Runway. We spend a lot of time together at home in order to save our money so we can continue to travel together. We’ll be in NYC for Thanksgiving and have at least two more big trips planned for next year.
And for anyone who thinks it’s weird that we don’t fart in front of each other, know that we do have burping contests and Joel popped a pimple on my face for me last night.